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Mindfulness & Coping With Fears And Aniexty

In our normal lives we all face stress and uncertainty at times. This COVID-19 pandemic has increased that above normal levels for us all.

Anxiety can be a good thing when it calls us to be present and to take action to be safe and take care of the people we love and to be resilient.

Anxiety is a bad thing when we are constantly worrying about the future. We tell ourselves stories about and predict the future and start to ‪believe our thoughts.

When we are gripped by fear and anxiety, what is called our sympathetic system is activated. Practising mindfulness, particularly breathing activates our para-sympathetic nervous system which, calms us down. It also brings our mind into the present moment and not ruminating about the past ( which we can’t change) and the future, which, often we don’t know what will happen.

Research has shown that practising mindfulness meditation can reduce symptoms of stress and anxiety at home and in the workplace.


Mindfulness – Breathing

A simple way to do this is with long, deep breaths. Close your eyes if you can and its comfortable. Take a deep breath for a count of five through your nose and slowly let it out through your mouth for a count of five. When we exhale, we intentionally release tension. It begins to calm down our nervous system. Do it five times. You can do it anywhere e.g. in bed, in your car, while parked for example in shopping centre, sitting in a chair at home. Your breath is your most portable and powerful meditation device. its always with you and always available.


Another meditation you can practice, developed by Tara Brach is called RAIN. It’s an acronym for Recognise, Allow, Investigate and Nurture.

First, just recognise – ” Okay I’m feeling fear” mentally whisper it to yourself. When you recognise and name a fear, it loses some of its power over you. Our rational thinking part of our brain starts to take over from our fearful and reactive part of our brain.

Then just allow it to be there. Don’t try to run away or fix or control or judge it.

Then just investigate it. How you are feeling it in your thoughts and in your body. What are you afraid of? In mindfulness we practice acceptance. Acceptance is not giving in or giving up. It simply means we acknowledge that something exists. Some things we accept and cannot change, others we accept but resolve to to the best we can to minimise the risk or change the situation. An example now would be to follow all the best practices that we are advised to minimise and mitigate the risk of getting COVID-19 or passing it to someone else.

Finally – Nurture. Put your hand on your heart and offer a kind soothing message to yourself. e.g. ” I will be ok, I’m doing my best” ” if we all look out for each other, things will be OK”


Today I am Grateful book

Your brain will find it hard to be anxious when you are busy being grateful. Humans have a negativity bias. We get fixated on threats, what we don’t have, and often overlook all the good things we have and the beauty around us. It’s a good way to start each day by listing out 5-10 things you are grateful for. They can be simple things like – food, shelter, health, love, friendship, nature, water, electricity, sanitation and so on. Things maybe we take for granted.


Mindful Walking – Go for a walk and use your senses. what can you – see, hear, feel, smell . So for example you could see the trees, hear the birds, feel the breeze on your face, smell the flowers etc.

person holding child walking on pathway
Mindful Walking

Some people find other things to focus their mind in the present like: Exercises, Yoga, Prayer, Cooking, Listening to music etc.



Writing thoughts down is a great way to get them out of your head. You may have heard of ” Think and Ink”. When we write down what we are anxious about or afraid of, it takes it out of the reactive and worrying part of our brain and allows our thinking and logical brain to work on it. When we write down and name our fear and anxiety, it looses a lot of its power over you. You can set yourself free.


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I will be giving an online tutorial shortly to help people introduce Mindfulness into their lives. So if you’re interested email, message or text me your details and i will get back to you.

I also teach Mindfulness and do Life Coaching on a one to one basis on a face to face basis or online by Skype etc. Both methods are very successful in their application.